Top ten ways to explain and deal with sexual abuse concerning your child/sibling.

 Hello again bloggers! I want to explain what this blog post is about. This post is top ten ways to talk to your child or siblings about sexual abuse and how to prepare them in case they are targeted as a victim. I chose this also to do research for my self . As I have mentioned in one of my previous post, I have three younger siblings and I wanted to learn how to talk about it if they were to ask me. That's the background about this particular post.

This image was found at The Upcoming on January 12, 2012. A young female 

trying to struggling against an attacker from raping her. 

This section is for parents, or guardian of a child. The following can be detailed into more depth at Child Psych Mom. This is going to list five ways to talk to talk to your child. I know you parents or guardians are probably thinking that you know how to handle your children and don't need a child telling you what to do, but if you don't need this information then very well. As for the parent or guardian becoming a parent or knows very little of what to say or do when your child becomes of age, please read the following for the respect of the children that never was taught  and that had to suffer., and for

the safety of your child. 
As Child Psych Mom says:

"Since 80% of child sexual abuse occurs in one-on-one situations, reducing those opportunities will greatly reduce a child’s risk of being victimized." 

1. Start at a young age. Start out by teaching your child/children about the parts of their body and what is known as their "private parts" and where they should never be touched. While doing this use language that is discreet and simple for the child to understand, depending on the age.
2. Help your child understand the meaning between good secrets and bad secrets. 
3. Try to reduce situations when your child is one-on-one with another adult. Instead encourage more group activities, or where there are more children and/or more adults present. 
4. Let your child know that if  anybody touches the inappropriately to tell you being the parent or guardian, or the very next trusted adult.
5. If your child does come up to you saying that somebody has touched their "private parts", tell them that you believe them and tell them that you are proud that they had enough courage and strength to come and tell you. 

Grant it I know that this isn't ten ways, but the information at Child Psych Mom  will go more into depth in explaining what was just listed. The next second part of this post is for those who have younger siblings and want to look out for them, and for more information for parents, or guardians.
The following indormation can be found explained more in depth at Psychology Today. 

1. Encourage your sibling(s), child/children to talk about their day.
2. Become educated on sexual abuse yourself.
3. Be aware of "red flags".
4. Know where and who your younger sibling(s), child/children are at all times.
5. Make sure there are more than one chaperon for group of youths.
6.    Teach them the danger that may come from someone they trust.
7.  Find therapy for victims.
8.  Understand the signs.
9.  Take action if you suspect any type of abuse occurring.
10.  Support research.

Thank you bloggers for reading! Leave a comment if there is a specific topic you would like me me to discuss on this blog. Once again, thank you for your support.

My anonymous interviews!

http://video-embed.nola.com/services/player/bcpid619329503001?bctid=601329606001&bckey=AQ~~,AAAAPmbRMTE~,BWCCSzT6s9ksP29K0TEsITNwjG28SO_r

Information about the video is available at:
http://www.nola.com/crime/index.ssf/2009/11/post_75.html

For this part of my blog it's interview time! I chose two people to interview. Each person wishes to be anonymous. My first interviewee is a single mom, and has a son that is four. My first and second interviewee has something in common. Both of them didn't let the abuse destroy them growing up. With that said the first interview starts:

• Have you met a child that willingly told you that they was being abused or were you victim of child abuse.

Yes. I, myself was a victim of child abuse.

• How old was you/ or the child when the abuse happened?

I was five years old.

• If it's not too personal, who was the abuser?

My step-grandfather.

• What did you do?

I tried to hide the abuse from showing.

• Was there a specific reason why the abuse happened?

I was a child, I see no reason why he would have a reason to have done it.

• What type of abuse was it?

Sad to say, it was sexual abuse.

• Did you tell an adult?

 Yes I told an adult what was going on.

• What are your thoughts about child molestation? Especially from a family member.

My thoughts.... My thoughts are that it makes me sick!

• What are your feelings toward child abuse cases that are shown on the news and every other public way to leak out information?

Well, like many people it makes me furious.

• Do you have any advice for a child or young adult that may read this interview, that went/is in the same situation that you were in?

Yes. Tell multiple people if needed. If one person you tell doesn't believe you, don't give up. Tell another person and another until somebody finally believes you.

After my first interview I went onto my second interview. My second person wishes just like the first. They wish to be anonymous. My second interviewee is a widow. She has four kids, and nine grand-children. My second interview starts with:

• Have you met a child that willingly told you that they was being abused or were you victim of child abuse.

Yes. I've been abused. I also met a child who was being abused

• How old was you/ or the child when the abuse happened?

I was six and the abuse lasted for ten long years. I do not know the age of the child.

• If it's not too personal, who was the abuser?

My daddy

• What did you do?

When I found out the the child was being abused I reported it to DSS (Department of Social Services), but on the other hand with me, I did nothing.

• Was there a specific reason why the abuse happened?

He would have to be alive, so you could ask him that question, because only he would know that answer.

• What type of abuse was it?

It was very detailed physical abuse, along with emotional and mental abuse.

• Did you tell an adult?

No, because I didn't want to get my daddy in trouble.

• What are your thoughts about child molestation? Especially from a family member.

Well, I was raped at the age of fifteen by a complete stranger. It makes me sick to my stomach. I want to stop it all!

• What are your feelings toward child abuse cases that are shown on the news and every other public way to leak out information?

If I see it, it makes me furious and I feel bad for the victim, because I know their pain.

• Do you have any advice for a child or young adult that may read this interview, that went/is in the same situation that you were in?

There are lots of people now a days to help. Never be afraid to ask somebody for help. Be thankful and lucky that there are people out there to help you. Also, never give up on your life because of another person's mistake and choice.

Both of my interviewees' are wonderful, strong, brave, courageous women. These women are my true hero, and idol! I was inspired sitting there listening to their story. Their story showed me that no matter what the situation, or catastrophe your in, there is no reason for giving up and that there is always hope. I wanna thank my interviewees' for their time and patience for going through this interview with me and opening up to all of you about their experience. Thank you!

What will people do to try to hide mistakes?

Hey.... Once again I was doing web surfing and stumbled across this news story.

This is the 9 year old girl that was killed by her stepfather:https://encrypted-tbn2.google.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQBFX1l0wnRban_fGL5kgup1pFSR9UEwOE7CeEekqvxNYooyCJ2

L.A Now states:  

 A Long Beach man is facing capital murder and molestation charges as authorities allege that he stabbed to death his 9-year-old stepdaughter to cover up months of sexual abuse.Jacinto Zuniga Trujillo, 31, is alleged to have stabbed the girl -- identified in court papers as Xiomara J. -- because he feared she might reveal that he been sexually abusing her since November, prosecutors alleged.

As much as I read into the report in the news story, the 31 male was found not to far away from the girl's lifeless body, with inflicted stab wounds. Investigators believe that the man tried to commit suicide.

From was I learned and read, Trujillo was  accused of the special circumstance allegation that the victim "was killed because she was a witness to a crime," specifically child molestation. He was also charged with five counts of oral copulation and sexual penetration with a child under the age of 10 involving the victim. 

This definitely  caught my attention, because no child should have to suffer. It made me furious to learn that the man that did this to the poor little girl, tried to commit suicide after her murdered his step-child.

This little girl's life ended before it could begin. All because of an ignorant man.

No child should have to suffer like this child did. No child should have suffered five barely six months.